​Don’t Let Thiers Become Yours by Pennie Hunt

When I am around people, I pick up their energy. I don’t just think they must be happy, sad, or angry… I know it.  I feel it! If they are in emotional or physical pain, I can feel their pain in my body. Because of this, I am not a fan of being in crowded areas. A quick trip through the aisles of a grocery store can be a roller coaster of up-and-down feelings from everyone I walk by.  It can be exhausting.

I have a ritual that I do before entering a crowd. I take a few deep breaths in my car and I imagine a bubble around me that will keep all the feelings from others at bay. It helps.

If you are not someone who is highly attuned to the emotions of others and can sense and experience their energy and emotions on a deep level, (an empath) this probably sounds strange to you.

The reality is, we all do this on some level. You may not deeply feel the emotions of strangers as you walk by them like I do, but you still feel the feelings of others. When was the last time you came home from work and your wife was angry at someone and you immediately became angry at that person too? Or did someone tell you great news of happiness and you became happy too? Or did you receive tragic news from someone, and you hugged each other circled in the same cloud of grief?

I bet you can see yourself in those scenarios. Some of that is normal, natural, and can’t be avoided. Of course, if your family is expecting a new baby, everyone will join in joy for that happy event. And of course, if a loved one passes many who cared about that person will share grief together.

The problem comes when you just automatically feel someone’s feelings as if they are your own. If you dislike someone just because your friend doesn’t like them that is a problem. Don’t let their anger become your anger. Don’t let their hate become your hate. Don’t let their fear become your fear. Don’t let their skepticism, jealousy, mistrust…. or fill-in-the-blank with whatever feeling it is… don’t let theirs become yours.

Before you take that easy​ step of jumping in with both feet and letting theirs become yours, try taking a difficult step back. ​Stay outside of their bubble of anger, skepticism, hate, fear- or whatever emotion they are projecting. Stand in a clear space far enough away to understand and see the whole picture. Evaluate the situation from a nonjudgmental stance.

After you have looked at the situation from all angles and made a clear judgment for yourself, then you can feel the appropriate emotion. Your emotion. Maybe the situation is accurate as it was presented to you, and you will become angry or disappointed too. Maybe the situation is a little more two-sided, and you need to take a middle-ground approach. Maybe you need to walk away from the entire situation. But never allow someone else’s anger to become your anger.

The bubble technique works. If you know you are walking into a troubling situation, sit for a few minutes. Take a few breaths. Build a bubble of protection around yourself. Your feelings should be your feelings. The feelings and emotions of others should be theirs. Don’t let theirs become yours.
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                                                  Pennie’s Life Lesson:
                            Learn to understand the difference between
            your feelings and emotions and the feelings and emotions of others.
                                                       Don’t blur the two.
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