“I notice you have a bouquet of flowers on your table. Are they for something special or do you just like flowers?”
The question made me smile as I answered my friend.
“Yes, they are for December 14th and yes, that is a special holiday.”
I went on to explain that it isn’t a holiday to anyone except me and my husband. To everyone else December 14th slides right by as another busy day in the holiday season, but to us it is much more. It is a holiday. Our holiday. It is the Beginning of Forever Day.
Years ago, before we were married, we had what we now refer to as The Hiatus. It was a space of time in our relationship that we took a pause from each other- well, at the time we thought it was a permanent breakup. It lasted a substantial amount of time. No phone calls, no seeing each other, no communication of any kind.
And then, he made the phone call that changed everything. On December 14th he called me, and we began talking. It was the beginning of our forever together.
Others may not understand this, but after all these years of being married, we continue to celebrate our little holiday. A little holiday with a big meaning for us. A little holiday that isn’t on anyone’s calendar except ours.
December 14th is a holiday we always celebrate. It usually includes flowers and dinner out. It is special because without that phone call, we would not have ended the hiatus. We would not be married. And our Forever would have never begun.
What holiday is on your calendar that no one else knows about? That no one else would care about? That no one else would understand the meaning of?
We all have them. It may be the day you received the call offering you the job of your dreams. It may be the day you walked into the first home you purchased. It may be the day you were handed the keys to your first car. The day you bumped into someone in the post office that became your spouse. It may be the birthday of someone who is no longer with you, but you continue to celebrate them on that day.
Some days on your calendar may be remembrances of a less-than-happy time. The day your divorce was final. The day you were told cancer had become part of your life or the day of your last chemotherapy. The day someone you love became an angel in your heart.
If you do know about someone’s special date acknowledge it – if you think it is appropriate. Some personal dates of celebration or sadness are best left private in the hearts of the holder. But if it is one you feel is appropriate to acknowledge, do so with compassion. If it is a date of celebration, tell them that you remember and celebrate with them. If it is a date of sadness quietly acknowledge it with a hug or a thinking-of-you card or text.
All of these very personal markers of life become embedded in our hearts and written on our calendars. Others may not understand them, remember them, or even know about them. But we do.
What holiday is on your calendar that no one else knows about?
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Pennie’s Life Lesson:
We all have personal dates we remember, celebrate, and grieve.
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