WHO ORDERS THE PIZZA?

This is the way the conversation went...

“Who orders the pizza?”
“Well, she calls and                      orders it.”
“No, I mean who decides             what kind of pizza to order?”
“We always have sausage.”
“Does she like sausage?”
“Sure, I guess.”
“But you are not sure.
     Maybe she is conceding to you. 
     Maybe she is resenting it.”
 
Later he asked me,
    “What kind of pizza do you like?”
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I had to think about it and it took me a while to answer. I had picked sausage off the pizza for so long I didn’t remember what kind of pizza I really did like.
 
I don’t think this is an uncommon scenario. Many times it is easier to concede and let another person have what they want.
We do it out of love for them.
We do it out of avoidance- we don’t want to argue.
We do it because it really doesn’t matter that much to us.
 
On the other side, it is easy not to notice that someone is always giving in to our needs. That their needs may not be being met. That resentment may be building under the facade of agreement.
 
What is the “pizza” in your life - in your relationships? When we begin paying attention to this kind of give and take.... Or "give and give" situation, it becomes obvious that there are solutions.
Simple solutions.
 
My husband and I now order two pizzas.  One sausage for him.  One chicken and pineapple for me.  Yes, I LOVE chicken and pineapple on my pizza.  Preferably with extra sauce and extra cheese. The solution was so easy. 
 
Now we both get what we want.  There is no conceding.  There is no resentment. And there are always leftovers for lunch the next day.
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Pennie’s Life Lesson ~ 
“Pay attention to “give and take” vs “give and give” situations in life.  Don’t be afraid to order your own pizza!”
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Pennie Heart to Heart
 WHO ORDERS THE PIZZA

YOUR TURN...         
My intent in sharing this with you is to encourage you to pay attention to when you are involved in a give and give situation. What solutions are there?
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